A few months ago I discovered the quote:
“Crazy around you, doesn’t mean crazy within you”
from Courtney Carver.
As moms, most of the time it’s crazy around us, right? Someone needs something, something needs to be done……events…requests…kids arguing…to-do lists….we’re constantly assessing situations, making decisions and problem-solving.
Think about the state of your mind in these moments, is that the ideal way to make decisions and take action?
One quote that shares this perfectly is from Melody Beattie:
“There is little in our lives we need to do that we cannot do better if we are peaceful.”
So how can we settle in the moment and be more peaceful? Quick answer…by being mindful.
I’m giving you my top 9 Quick Tips to Calm in an Overwhelm Moment so you can start experiencing more mindful moments:
- Do something that comforts you (if only for a minute or two, but give it your full attention during that time), for me this is usually knitting.
- Take a few minutes of quiet, if your kids are old enough ask them to play in a different room, or go into your own space. If you have younger children, give them a favorite toy or something to occupy them. (I know this one might be a stretch to achieve, but sometimes it does work out!)
- Pause to prioritize…what is most pressing that needs my attention? what can wait?
- Go outside or look out a window focusing on what you see or hear, doing your best to block out the chatter.
- Light a candle or diffuse a favorite scent.
- Put on calming music to lower your heart rate and settle your mind.
- Have an image or item that reminds you to take a pause and be mindful. I have a Baby Groot on my desk, yes Baby Groot! If you’ve seen the most recent Guardians of the Galaxy movie the opening credits include Baby Groot dancing while the rest of the guardians are battling a space monster. To me this was a perfect example of…just because there is chaos around you, doesn’t mean you have to participate in it.
- Pause, take a few deep breaths (3 at minimum).
- Being gentle with yourself, reminding yourself that it’s okay if you feel scattered, if you notice that you’re feeling overwhelmed, ask yourself what you need in that moment to take away some of the overwhelm and take action.
Which tip are you going to implement for the next time the feeling of overwhelm sneaks up on you?
Not sure where to start or what mindfulness might look like for you?
On April 21st, I’ll be hosting the Mama Retreat Day at the Still Point Retreat Center, in Mechanicville, that can help you discover what this can look like for you! We’ll take time to reconnect with ourselves, connect to each other, practice self-care and just take a day off from our usual routines!
My hope is that through this retreat we will:
- Identify your needs so you can focus on being your best self and approach daily life feeling fulfilled and energized.
- Reconnect with your values so you can prioritize how you spend your time and energy, allowing you to feel less drained and more in control.
- Determine what you need to feel centered so you can make clear decisions and parent from a calm grounded place(not losing patience as much!).
- Quiet your mind so you can feel calm on a regular basis and know what you need when you’re having a hard day, which allows you to move through times of stress more easily.
If you want to learn more go to: http://jenniferbloomingdale.com/mama-retreat-day/.
I’m Jennifer Bloomingdale, a mom of two young boys, wife, former educator and professional development provider. My passion is supporting others, especially moms, as they work towards their hopes and dreams. I have developed workshops and coaching programs specifically for moms to support them as they work towards a balanced life that works best for them and their family and reconnect with themselves.