We’re back to school and I have to say, I’m thrilled with the new “normal”. I loved the summer home with the kids, but I’m thankful for a little back to school renewal. The kids are very much still adjusting to the new routine and with that comes some inevitable behavior problems. Most notable is the After School After-Math.
Robby & Angie, ready to behave at school…
What is After School After-Math?
It’s a condition that affects probably 7 out of 10 preschool-fifth graders (based on my informal mama polling).
Symptoms may include: tantrums, fits, meltdowns, lack of communication skills, lack of listening skills, extreme hunger or thirst, and increased sensitivity.
Picked up from school. Welcome to Crazy Town!
My theory is that the kids literally use up all their good behavior at school (we’ve taught them well) so that when they come home, they’re exceptionally crazy! They’ve simply run out of good. We’re so happy to see them and hear about their day, and they’re most happy withholding information and misbehaving.
What to do about After School After Math?
We’re still trying to figure out how to best handle this condition, but (informal) studies show that a healthy non-sugary snack, quiet time (or a nap), redirection, outside play, and household tasks all lead to more pleasant results.
I’m hopeful that as the weeks go by and things settle into place, this issue will become a moot point. In the meantime, time-outs will be frequent and necessary!
HELP! Are you experiencing After School After Math? What’s working for you!?
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We have finally tamed the After School After Math.
My daughter has a very full school day. On the ride home, I try to stop and give her 10 minutes of fresh air: at a playground, stop and look at Round Lake, something like that.
Then at home, we take exactly 1/2 hour of total downtime (e.g., watch Olivia or look at books and have a snack). After that, we attack homework right away so it is out of the way.
Then the rest of the evening is hers, to play, unwind, and be refreshed for the next day. She seems happy with this!
Maura,
I love this solution! Thank you so much for posting it. It’s so nice when we find something that works. Good luck to you and your daughter this school year!